Linda Arnold’s Blog

Here are my columns, articles, resources and insights.

Why is it so hard to live in the present moment?

Why is it so hard to live in the present moment?

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow’s a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present. If only we’d heed these wise words from cartoonist Bill Keane, we could experience such contentment in our lives! When you’re depressed, it’s because you’re living in the past. And when you’re anxious, it’s because you’re living in the future. We’ve all heard about the power of the present moment and the benefits of “living in the now.” Everything from reduced blood pressure to a richer tapestry of life. I doubt any of us would naturally choose to...

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What Does Your Body Language Reveal About You?

What Does Your Body Language Reveal About You?

Those darting eyes. That clenched fist. Those folded arms. Did you know your body language is saying much more than the words you’re speaking? In fact, it comprises 60-70% of your communication, according to body language expert, Kevin Hogan, Psy.D. So, are you sure you’re sending the right message? Some body language is positive, and some is negative. Positive body language says things like, “I’m really interested in what you’re saying.” Negative body language conveys things like, “I don’t believe a word you’re saying. Besides, I’m bored.”...

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Are You Kind of Watering Down Your Message?

Are You Kind of Watering Down Your Message?

Pop quiz:  what are three of the most ineffective phrases you could use? If your list includes the following, you’re in good company:  kind of, sort of, like, really, try to, should be, you know. If you matched three of these, you win a case of Eskimo pies and a year’s supply of Rice-a-Roni.  (I sort of made that last part up). Kind of, Sort Of We often dilute powerful messages with these meaningless fillers, and they immediately cast doubt. Think about it.  When you hear these words, do you find yourself secretly wishing the speaker would...

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You Just Can’t Reason With Some People – Here’s Why

You Just Can’t Reason With Some People – Here’s Why

Chances are you have someone in your life that seems to sap every ounce of energy you have. No matter what you do, they show up time and time again – with some urgent need that requires you to drop what you’re doing and pay attention to them. Healthy Boundaries Don’t Work All you have to do is set some healthy boundaries, right?  Well, that may work with most folks, but not these repeat offenders.  Because they’re never satisfied. No matter how hard you work to meet their needs, it’s never enough.  Not to mention their tendency to trample on...

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Facing Your Fears, One Eggshell at a Time

Facing Your Fears, One Eggshell at a Time

We all have our strengths – and our weaknesses The problem comes when we buy into the opinions of others – and let their voices drown ours out. How many stories have you heard about children who were told they weren’t good at something – and never bothered to pursue it? Obviously, we can’t be good at everything. And it’s helpful to play to our strengths and to know our limits. Then there are those gray areas. You know the feeling. You’re not confident about your ability in a certain area, and someone else calls you out on it. As fate would...

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Can You Catch a Bad Mood?

Can You Catch a Bad Mood?

So, you’re starting off your day. Random thoughts are running through your mind – about what lies ahead. Then it’s off to the races! Routine tasks like brushing your teeth and taking a shower are breeding grounds for ideas – both positive and negative. Usually, this takes place without other encounters. So you have the opportunity to create your own mindset. (Inspirational messages on my bathroom mirror help me start the day on a positive note!) Things are going fairly well.   You’re excited about the day. And then it happens. Your Good Mood...

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Ten Questions to Ask When Facing Life Challenges

Ten Questions to Ask When Facing Life Challenges

We all make lots of choices every day. Some are minor and will only impact the next few minutes, hours or day. And then there are those life-changing decisions that completely alter our course. If we want to understand why and how we created our present reality, all we need to do is look at the choices we’ve made in the past. (Of course, sometimes we have more latitude to make choices; other times we’re boxed in more by circumstances.) By the same token, if we want to know what our lives will look like in the future, we need to look at the...

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How to Stop Any Argument in its Tracks

How to Stop Any Argument in its Tracks

  “You may be right.” On their own, these four words don’t appear to be that powerful.  However, when used in the heat of the moment to defuse an argument, they can work wonders! Case in point:  you’re engaged in a heated argument, and your opponent is attacking.  As with some forms of martial arts, you can take the strength of the attack and deflect it. I’ve seen this technique work wonders over and over — because it works immediately.  And it doesn’t call for concessions.  It merely interrupts the pattern of the attacker and...

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Are Political Differences Affecting Your Friendships?

Are Political Differences Affecting Your Friendships?

If you find yourself in one uncomfortable situation after another following our recent national election, you’re not alone. Generally, at this point after an election, tempers have calmed down and folks are either excited about a new administration — or resigned to wait out four years, with an eye to the future. Not so with our country’s recent election. The divisiveness continues, and the sides seem to be digging in their heels.  Which can make for uncomfortable encounters in our daily lives. The old saying that cautions against...

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Seven Words to Drop For More Empowerment

Seven Words to Drop For More Empowerment

Pop quiz:  how often do you catch yourself saying these seven words: Should Hate But Try Broke/Poor Yes (always) Never If you’re a repeat offender, you could be blocking the flow of more positive energy into your life.  The repetitive use of these words sets up unconscious blocks.  Let’s take a closer look. Should Whether you use this word on yourself – or with others – you’re immediately creating expectations. “Shoulds” often set us up for self-sabotage – or impose guilt.  “I should, he should, she should” is a dismal chorus of judgment. ...

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